No- sex- before-marriage rule appears to be regaining wide acceptance
Believe it or not, there are indications that it may be. At the very least it’s a topic that’s being discussed in places that might surprise you.
The Washington Post recently published a piece in its “Acts of Faith” section called “I’m a 32-year-old virgin, and I’m living the feminist dream.” To her great credit, Kate Bryan, a young Catholic woman, openly writes about her decision to save sex for marriage. Not only does her “commitment to sexual integrity” allow her to do the things she wants to do, it saves her a lot of worry. “I’m not wasting my time worrying about waking up next to a stranger, contracting a sexually transmitted infection or missing a period.”
Bryan cites a study in the journal “Archives of Sexual Behavior” indicating that Americans born in the 1980s and 1990s are more than twice as likely to be sexually inactive than the previous generation. And while it’s impossible to know all the reasons why, Bryan posits one: “Maybe they realize that a condom doesn’t protect the heart, and that true love is something worth waiting for and fighting for.”
Bryan is also open about the fact that she feels a void not being married, and not having children yet. Her childhood dream was to get married and have 12 kids (like the number of Jesus’ disciples). But she also believes all things are possible with God.
As it turns out, Bryan’s college thesis was based on the book Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla, who would later become Saint John Paul II. So she’s got some expertise on the complexity of the subject. She writes, “In the case of the single person, chastity does mean not having sex before marriage, but it also means striving toward the perfection of love. We must all aim to love ourselves and to love others in the most perfect way possible – that is chastity in its fullness.”
This article continues at [NC Register] Is Premarital Abstinence Making a Comeback?